tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post3677666361315783385..comments2024-02-16T07:12:31.427-05:00Comments on My money and my life: Married Moneystory girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16876607625116932174noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-70887940844792966442015-08-01T22:47:33.356-05:002015-08-01T22:47:33.356-05:00Sounds interesting. This is a fact. When you get m...Sounds interesting. This is a fact. When you get married, you get married also to money. Because of unending bills. ^_^Guides to Investments for Beginnershttp://investmenttotal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-3529600704805869652009-10-31T23:57:00.208-06:002009-10-31T23:57:00.208-06:00Kenali dan Kunjungi Objek Wisata di Pandeglang
Key...<a rel="external" title="Kenali dan Kunjungi Objek Wisata di Pandeglang" href="http://zf-1221.blogspot.com/2009/08/kenali-dan-kunjungi-objek-wisata-di.html" rel="nofollow">Kenali dan Kunjungi Objek Wisata di Pandeglang</a><br /><a rel="external" title="Keyword Kenali Pandeglang" href="http://zf-1221.blogspot.com/2009/10/keyword-kenali-dan-kunjungi-objek.html" rel="nofollow">Keyword Kenali Pandeglang</a><br />Mohon dukungannya yach....?!<br />Semangat..semangat..!!<br /><a rel="external" title="Pandeglang telah hilang" href="http://zf-1221.blogspot.com/2009/09/telah-hilang-kenali-dan-kunjungi-objek.html" rel="nofollow">Pandeglang telah hilang </a><a rel="external" title="Kenali Si Dunia Aneh" href="http://zf-1221.blogspot.com/2009/09/kenali-si-dunia-aneh.html" rel="nofollow">Kenali Si Dunia Aneh</a><br />Silahkan kunjungi <a rel="external" title="Pak firman" href="http://pakfirman.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Pak firman</a> di <a rel="external" title="SDIT Nurul Ilmi Medan" href="http://pakfirman.blogspot.com/2009/11/sdit-nurul-ilmi-medan.html" rel="nofollow">SDIT Nurul Ilmi Medan</a> dalam kontes <a rel="external" title="Kenali dan Kunjungi Objek Wisata di Pandeglang" href="http://kenalidankunjungiobjekwisatadipandeglang.inilahkita.com/2009/09/29/kenali-dan-kunjungi-objek-wisata-di-pandeglang" rel="nofollow">Kenali dan Kunjungi Objek Wisata di Pandeglang</a>Kenali dan Kunjungi Objek Wisata di Pandeglanghttp://zf-1221.blogspot.com/2009/08/kenali-dan-kunjungi-objek-wisata-di.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-64211390753838266222007-08-21T19:20:00.000-05:002007-08-21T19:20:00.000-05:00I wanted to add to my last comment that, while it ...I wanted to add to my last comment that, while it is a philosophical thing for me, I totally understand that it's not for everyone. This is just MY money and MY life. . . certainly not anyone else's, and I would never want to sound like my way was the only way.story girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16876607625116932174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-30748205511680501432007-08-21T16:06:00.000-05:002007-08-21T16:06:00.000-05:00I would say my biggest problem with it, plonkee, h...I would say my biggest problem with it, plonkee, has to do with the issue of child rearing. I feel "yours, mine, ours" puts a value on wage earning that it doesn't put on other household tasks. In families where the division of labor is such that both parties cannot work full time outside the home, it doesn't seem fair for the one who does the bulk of the unpaid work to get a lesser share of the household income.story girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16876607625116932174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-26531334116200615642007-08-21T07:49:00.000-05:002007-08-21T07:49:00.000-05:00I'm not sure that I see what the problem is with '...I'm not sure that I see what the problem is with 'yours, mine and ours' in money. If it doesn't work for you, fine, but if it does work, then why not. IMHO, its not about philosophy, its about solutions. Workable solutions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-75689058017346077622007-08-20T15:32:00.000-05:002007-08-20T15:32:00.000-05:00My girlfriend and I recently joined accounts and i...My girlfriend and I recently joined accounts and it has been pretty smooth sailing for the most part. We do not suffer fro the "yours, mine, ours" since everything is OURS. She came home after being gone for 6 months of military training, and with her not having a job right away, I took care of both of our finances. Both of us come from heavy spending habits, but were able to nip it in the butt and get our priorities in order. No I am not set financially, we were actually pretty damn tight in the beginning. However, once her checks started kicking in we were able to get the ball rolling to have debts under $1000 paid off in lump sums and pay off all bills for the month on the 1st of the month. The savings cushion is not where we would like it to be since we rewarded our selves to a little splurge whenever one debt was cleared. I am the one who sets our budgets up, so the next budget plan i set up will be count for more money into savings since all debts minus our car payments have been taken care of and also to focus on the repair of our credit histories so that we can purchase a house. I pay the bills, she does the shopping (for both of us) and we report all expenses to one another to keep tabs on the account. One more thing that has helped us is that we only use our debit card for groceries and major expenses. Bills are paid online, and we take out $100 each a week to pay for gas, tolls, and personal misc personal expenses under $100. If she wants a candy bar or some new shade of make up, she can buy it cash and its ok. Not everything works for everyone and nothing will work if you arent ready to make it work. My girlfriend and I were ready to change our habits and are slowly reaping the benefits. One more tip, check out "thesimpledollar.com" It has been a very resourceful site in getting our finances in order.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-62121581332625594362007-08-17T20:52:00.000-05:002007-08-17T20:52:00.000-05:00My husband tells everyone that our financial agree...My husband tells everyone that our financial agreement is simple. He earns it and I spend it. That's pretty much true. I'm a SAHM so I don't bring in the bucks. I do all the budgeting, investment planning, and I pay all the bills. It works well for us because I am a details person and my husband hates to plan anything!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04556685843352519969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-62353240929452077892007-08-17T17:18:00.000-05:002007-08-17T17:18:00.000-05:00This sounds JUST like my Husband and I.I've slowly...This sounds JUST like my Husband and I.<BR/><BR/>I've slowly started to get him to start caring about the budget, but he keeps wanting to spend it on his project hobby truck (we travel all the time, NOT feasible)... and I feel so bad sometimes for being so strict on him. But I desperately want us out of debt by March 2009... <BR/><BR/>He on the other hand, keeps feeling like we have "no money", but I don't think he really knows what it's like to truly have "no money", considering he doesn't work (is "retired" for now), we have no bills whatsoever except for his cellphone bill (everything is reimbursed by my company if I'm on a project), and it's just frustrating when he monkey wrenches our debt plan by going out and blowing money....<BR/><BR/>*sigh*<BR/><BR/>I know we can afford it, but that's not the point - the point is to live frugally for the next 3 years or less (if possible), take a break, and begin saving for a down payment on a mortgage.. but I feel like sometimes we aren't on the same schedule - I'm an aggressive debt reducer whereas he wants to take it slow and shoot the breeze.FB @ FabulouslyBroke.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12966672580040786485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-72773965881419490122007-08-17T17:05:00.000-05:002007-08-17T17:05:00.000-05:00One of my newly married friends, who is a student,...One of my newly married friends, who is a student, said to me once "He parks his car in the garage because he's the one who pays the mortgage." Oh no, no, no! When you're married, you both pay the mortgate, with your money. It doesn't matter who's the actual income earner.<BR/><BR/>Stephanie, besides the emotional, there are very practical reasons not to live that way. Who buys the sheets? The ice cream? Do you itemize the phone bill? Do you split rent/mortgage equally or according to earning? It would become impossible to manage.story girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16876607625116932174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-22708540428889850302007-08-17T16:17:00.000-05:002007-08-17T16:17:00.000-05:00My wife and I have had a joint account from the ve...My wife and I have had a joint account from the very beginning and never even really thought about having separate accounts.<BR/><BR/>One thing we struggled with was that my wife became a SAHM when we had kids and she had the feeling that she had to ask to spend "my" money. She lost the feeling that the money was ours as she wasn't earning an income.<BR/><BR/>The thing that helped us through that was we decided on an amount of spending money we would each get for the week to do with as we pleased. It was almost like a blast to the past with an allowance as a kid but it really helped.<BR/><BR/>After 8 years of marriage, I think the key for us is open communication. Never assume that the other knows what we are thinking or what we want to do. It has been difficult as my wife has no interest in finances or investments but we have learned to discuss our finances on a regular basis.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-74716706132162958862007-08-17T11:04:00.000-05:002007-08-17T11:04:00.000-05:00Wow...I totally resonate with this. I got married...Wow...I totally resonate with this. I got married in January and I'm the one who cares about the actual balance in the checkbook, etc. My husband and we also owed close to $100,000 when we started out (I think it's sitting at about $93,000 right now). And that's just crazy. I'm enjoying reading about your money and your life.<BR/>-Sarah from WisebreadSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05220448315369951650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-2723779163650062952007-08-17T10:26:00.000-05:002007-08-17T10:26:00.000-05:00I was thinking about joint accounts the other day,...I was thinking about joint accounts the other day, and perhaps it's because I'm nowhere near marriage, but I'm having trouble wanting to do a joint account. I feel like I'd like to spend what I make and let my future husband spend what he makes, and also I think have a joint account for rent/mortgage, utilities, etc.<BR/><BR/>I think this probably is related to my habitual saving plan, and my understanding that others can do what they want.<BR/><BR/>Well, hopefully by the time I get married, I'll have the mindset that you guys have (I want that, I just have to change! Fingers crossed!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2192017227321158730.post-920549941391104642007-08-16T22:16:00.000-05:002007-08-16T22:16:00.000-05:00This sounds exactly like me and my wife except the...This sounds exactly like me and my wife except the other way around so if you have any success please share it with me! I'm the one that creates the budget that she doesn't care about. The only difference is I'm also the one that cares about the investments. We joined accounts earlier this year and are still fighting over money as you said mine, yours or ours. Maybe we should seek group counseling lol :)Riggingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08752205895486228222noreply@blogger.com